In an effort to ignore their grief, heal quicker or prevent loneliness, a widower will often jump into a new relationship before he is ready.
Whether it takes weeks, months or years, a widower is the only one who will know when he is ready to date again.
Simply ask your questions respectfully, so it is not regarded as prying but as a genuine interest in the deceased spouse and their relationship.
If you pay close attention, you actually may learn many interesting things about your new partner, for example: how he/she views the world; how he/she treats a partner; likes and dislikes, etc.
If you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider.
LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations.