Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years."There is no 'normal.' Partners may have an implicit expectation of the length of an engagement, based on their family, their culture and their community.Sometimes this is different for each partner, and if it is not significantly discussed in a very explicit way, it can lead to misunderstandings." She continues: "There is no magic time frame when a couple should date before the engagement, but the rule for any happy and successful marriage is to realize this—all couples go through a 'romantic love' phase.They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.
Also, what do others (those that both of you have been seeking counsel from, under whose authority the relationship has taken place, Christian friends or family) think of the relationship? Does the relationship seem to be good for both of you spiritually, glorifying to God and Christ-centered?
Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.
Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.
On the whole he's a fantastic person, but I'm wondering whether his porn addiction is a red flag.
Do you think we should move forward in our relationship? The addiction is based on neurochemical changes that occur in the brain as a result of prolonged exposure to stimulating sexual imagery.