Daughter is dating a much older man

It’s quite common to see older men and younger women dating in this country and all over the world.

You might even say Western men are better able to maintain their desire for younger women in a way that isn’t as pedophilic as others.

Dear Carolyn: Daughter moved to a new city after college to pursue her career.

She immediately met a man twice her age (seven years younger than I am).

He recently left the military and earned a college degree.

He was married briefly and divorced a couple of years ago.

This whole time, Ive been constantly asking why is a 25 year old guy ok with hanging out with a group of 17-18 year olds? But Daughter said that Guy doesnt drink and all his friends do, and he doesnt like to hang out with a bunch of drunk people. By now, Ive met Guy a few times and he actually seems like a nice person. Her dad and I (We are divorced, but try to keep a united front in the raising of the kids) found out they have been dating for a while and are possibly having sex.

(Were going to talk more specifically later tonight) I know she lied about dating because we would not have approved, and that is true.

So there will definitely be consequences for that, but as for the rest, I am at a loss. But knowing her, I can understand what an older person would like about her. And Guy has called apologizing about lying and they both have said he wanted to tell us, but she didnt. I spent a lot of time today talking him out of finding the Guy and doing bodily harm to him.

At first, he wouldn't tell her his age, and when I asked her, she just said he was "older," so I got the info through public records.

She has been seeing him exclusively about six months.